Preparation Phase – Questions

Step 1 of 6 – Understanding Self

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Understanding Self

Reflect on your deepest needs within the relationship, considering emotional, physical, intellectual, and spiritual dimensions. How have these needs been met or unmet? Understanding and articulating these needs can illuminate areas of fulfillment and lack, guiding you towards mutual understanding and support.

Emotional Inventory

Identify the range of emotions you've experienced in relation to conflicts within the relationship. For each emotion, think about what triggers it and how it affects your behavior and decision-making. This exercise helps you become more aware of your emotional responses and their impact, guiding you toward managing emotions constructively.

Self-Assessment in Conflict

Reflect on your typical reactions during conflicts, including not just outward actions but also internal thoughts and feelings. What patterns emerge? Understanding your behavior in conflicts can reveal how you contribute to either the escalation or resolution of these moments.

Contribution to Dynamics

Honestly assess how your actions, words, or silence contribute to the challenges you face as a couple. Acknowledging both your positive contributions and areas where you might inadvertently perpetuate negative patterns is crucial for growth and healing within the partnership.

Desired Changes

Envision the changes you wish to see in yourself and in your relationship. Consider specific actions, behaviors, and mindsets you can adopt to contribute to these changes. Setting intentions for personal and relational growth outlines concrete steps you can take to foster the changes you wish to see.

Vision for Us

Describe in detail what a fulfilling, healthy relationship looks like to you, including aspects like communication, intimacy, shared activities, and how conflicts are managed. Crafting a shared vision serves as a guide, motivating both partners toward the relationship they aspire to create together.