Imagine a situation 3, 6, or 12 month in the future. What if this program has changed important dynamics in your relationship for the better? What does the situation look like? What are observable changes? How do you feel / think / act differently?
Be blunt. You don't have to be political correct or spare someone's feelings. Just for now leave the “agreed upon story” that you have made part of the relationship dynamic. Tell me, what you would tell your best friend after a few drinks.